Saturday, August 30, 2008

We Made It!

When we are driving in the car, Johari likes to:
1. Ask why we stopped at every stop sign and stop light. So we discuss it every time. Sometimes she gets into knowing what all of the signs mean.
2. Say, "We Made It!" or "We almost made it!" even when we have just set out for our destination. But I figure we have made it to wherever we are in that moment.
The other day, we had a discussion about nyonyo's. Whose nyonyo's work and whose don't. The discussion arose because we had been at the park with Nawo and Carmel. We were each heading home for nap time and Johari and I were talking about that. So she was mentioning that if Carmel was going home for a nap then Nawo must be giving her nyonyo's (nursing her to bed). I tried to discuss the lack of milk in the male breast as well as how only mamas who have had a baby and been nursing have milk. It was an interesting discussion even if the concept didn't stick. I think she still believes that daddies can nurse their babies.
She is still the little exerciser and personal trainer. She gets her arms up in running position and trots along and yells, "Come on, guys!" or "Let's go, guys!" Sometimes she will be running along and exclaim, "Exercise!" to let me know that she is now exercising. I can usually tell just by looking because of how she puts her arms tight to her sides and her hands into fists.

We finally got to one of the excellent Seattle wading pools just before the season comes to an end. We will be ready for next summer wading pools though. She had her baby doll doing a whole lot of swimming in the wading pool.

She has had a week long binge on mac n cheese aka "monkey cheese". She was requesting it for breakfast and snack and dinner. She ate it a couple times a day. But I think it is fizzling out because she continued to request it but then would only eat a couple bites of it whereas at first she was scarfing it all down.
Paper towel rolls are awesome. It can be a trumpet or megaphone. She put it on her arm the other day and it became her cast.

Grandpa Marvin let her help put the dishwasher back together. WOW, did she enjoy that!!! She liked to put the screws where they belong or at least provide them to Grandpa. And she got to work on her screwing skills.

We met new friends at the mall the other day. Johari was showing Orion the luxuries of sitting in the massage chairs at the gadget store.
I often read while I am nursing Johari to sleep. Lately I have been reading Eckhart Tolle books. Johari found this little book somewhere in my collection that is called Awakening Loving-Kindness by Pema Chodron. She has taken to "needing" her book to hold when she is going to bed now. She wants to have her spiritual book to lay down with as well. She looks in it at times and talks about the letters or says numbers as if she is reading it.
Johari is expanding her motherly love. She refers to most of her baby friends as "my baby". She will ask me, "Is that my baby?" Of course, they are! Now not only will she take care of her baby dolls, but other objects can be her babies too. One time she had a little toy car that she was carrying around that she was lovingly referring to as her baby. Another time, her high heels held to her chest were her babies. They require all the normal baby care. She lets me know when they are crying or they need their mommy or the need to nurse.
We were walking Merlin the other night and she asked her Grandma what the bumpy slope in the sidewalk was. Grandma explained that it was for wheelchairs and strollers. Johari's response, "For us mommies!" "Yes, for us mommies." "For our babies?" "Yes."

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Me Walrus!

Me walrus!

identity

While I am reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, it is interesting to see Johari's development of her "ego". She is working out the identity roles and the world of "mine". She tries on many different roles. She will say, "Me Baby" almost every day particularly in late evening. And then proceed to act out being a baby, crawling around and narrating all of the baby's needs to me. "Baby tired." "Hold you baby." "Baby need apple." Then other times, "Me Mommy." She is mothering her many children. She will then narrating the needs of her children. "Baby needs mama." and hold her baby close to her. Other times, she will have her head wrapped with something and say, "Me Grandma." Or walk in a funny way and be a grandma. I am not sure where is got this definition for this role. Sometimes it is "Me Boy." She seems to claim being a boy more often than a girl or maybe I just notice it more. Sometimes she says, "Me Boy Girl." Some combination of being a boy and a girl, I guess. "Me Doctor." then she proceeds to bandage someone up.
She also seems to be watching details of style. One time while Kevin and Olivia (Nawo's cousins) were here staying at our house, she said she needed socks on when she hadn't worn socks in weeks. I realized that Kevin was wearing socks around the house and so she had decided she wanted to too. Another time, we were getting ready to take Kevin and Olivia somewhere and I was helping Johari put her sweatshirt on. When she got it on, she immediately said, "No Zip, Mama." I looked around and saw that she was eying that both Kevin and Olivia had on sweatshirts that were not zipped up because every other time she wants her sweatshirt zipped right away. This time she saw what the style trend was and wanted to try it out. Even yesterday we were walking down the street and across the way there was a girl walking her dog. She had on jeans with a ripped knee. Johari asked what was on the girl's knee and I explained. Then Johari told me that she had a rip in the knee of her pants.
Although she may try the trendy styles out, she is not stuck the roles being exclusive....heels go with hard hats. Mix it up! Why not? Challenge it.
Johari likes to play catch with the ball and is working on her dribble. She also likes a late night game of frisbee while bouncing on the bed.
We start working on recording our voices on a little digital recorder that we borrowed from my mom. We are working on some renditions of "Twinkle Stars" and "Wheels on the Bus". When she heard my voice, she said to me, "That Jill, Mommy." I thought that was an interesting thing to tell me. When am I Jill? When am I Mommy?
For the longest time she was telling me that she wanted "monkey cheese". I tried to give her every kind of cheese to figure out what it was that she meant but I couldn't seem to get it right. I finally realized what she was talking about.....MAC N CHEESE! How silly of me to take so long to realize but at least I've got it now.
Yesterday she was wearing this bib around her waist...yes it fit but it BARELY fit around her waist. Anyway while she was wearing it, she decided it was her Ergo and that she was carrying Ahdji-oudjou in her bib Ergo and nursing her as she walked along. Imagination is amazing when it isn't stifled.

the shoe arsenal



the shoe arsenal




swinging with heels and hardhat

the season of blackberries has arrived

The other morning when we woke up, Johari immediately began playing a game of hiding under the covers. She likes to play hiding games. She hides and I say out loud all of the possible places that she could be. She tells me "Johari hiding" just in case I don't pick up clues.
She likes to carry plenty of pairs of shoes around with her. Sometimes she will have 2 extra pairs of shoes in her very own purse. She may change shoes some time in her outing as well.

camping trip with clips....


making Ibrahim to wave to someone on the ferry boat

We went on our first camping trip last weekend in Neah Bay. We had a good time. It was beautiful weather with some fog and some sunshine. We escaped the little heatwave that Seattle had. Johari and I slept in a tent both nights. That worked out. Unfortunately, sleep the first night for her wasn't good because of a developing cold.
We went for a short hike in Cape Flattery. Which had some lovely views and some steep cliffs. Johari was guiding Ishmael on the walk for the first part. She was taking her self-determined role very seriously...making sure not to let go of his hand even when she had to readjust her hold on him.


leading Ishmael down the path

More pics from our journey there and back.



Stacy at Lake Crescent

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Jill dot com





Last night we were driving home from the bookstore. Johari was on one of her play phones. Here is what she said on her phone...
" Hi, Ahdji-oudjou.
Get the message (meaning she got Ahdji-oudjou's message).
Hi.
In the car.
In the car.
Going home...."

On the way to the beach today to meet Stacy, Ish and, Ibe, Johari asked me, "Stacy love me?"

I think she has always been really observant, but now she wants to get it all down. She wants to develop her language to go along with all of her observations. "What's that?" or "What's that called?" is her regular question. She wants to know who everyone is. What they are up to. What are the words for everything she sees in books, in life, everywhere. She is noticing subtleties about people. We were in Target cafe and she noticed an older woman whose head shook slightly and she acted out what she was noticing to me. Or if someone walks with a particular gait maybe stooped over.

She was saying my name, "Jill", the other day and when I figured out what she was saying she gave a sheepish grin.

One morning when we woke up, she said, "Dot com. I want to watch signing times dot com." Dot com is already a part of her vocabulary because people say it often in advertisement and promotional things. Wow!

One day we were sitting on the front porch and she mentioned Poppy Wise. As I often have to do, I scan my brain for what she is referring to. Then I remembered that there is a book that we haven't read very often that has a character named Poppy Wise in it. We hadn't read it recently. And I just thought about I can't even imagine what all is going on in that brain of hers.

Books she has been into lately..."Don't Take Your Snake For a Stroll". She calls it the "Scared of Snake book" because she is fascinated by a few pages where people are ridiculously scared of this kid walking a snake. "Strega Nona" has been a regular read lately and she wants to know who all these townspeople are. I can't usually read the book rather I am just answering the question "What's that?" for various parts of the book. Who is each person and so on. We just got "Tar Beach" which is a pretty nice book.

Monday, August 4, 2008

video clips


sliding through a salmon


ananda....blissful joy



draw rainbows



tap dancing on her stage



rolling around with Ishmael

Sunday, August 3, 2008

Braided!!!




She is getting more and more into Merlin, our dog, these days. She calls him "my baby dog". She likes to take him to the park and walk him often.
When asked, "What kind.........(or something)?" The answer is almost always "Orange".
Last night we were drawing together. She said that she was drawing worms and high heels.
Yesterday she found an itty bitty slug that she was willing to move around and touch as opposed to the big slugs which she is not yet interested in handling.
She had her 2 year wellness doctor's visit. It went far more smoothly than the most recent visits. It was the first time that she was willing to be weighed on her own and measured on her own. She was OK with being approached by the doctor and having her heart listened to. She still didn't like to have to lay down for the doctor though.
I have finally done her hair! It was unplanned...on a whim. Whenever she wanted to nurse while we were hanging at Forest Park, I would braid a few more until her head was complete. I didn't really think that it would get completed, but here is her first braiding. She wanted them out pretty soon but has gotten used to them now. So they remain for now.
We set up tents today in preparation for a camping trip that we are going on in a couple weeks. She had a blast bouncing around on the air mattress. It will be our first camping trip. That seems like crime that she has gone 2 years without a camping trip but we will finally do it soon!
I am reading a book called Sudbury Valley School Experience. It has a picture of the school on the front of it. She asked me what it was and I told her it was the Sudbury Valley School. Then she said that she wants to go there and take the bus there. Amazing what's going on in her head...all the connections and observations that she makes.

Zoo time...baboon time

Baboon love
Riding the worm at the zoo
Strapped into the stroller together...Johari and Ibrahim

Snacking with baboons
Riding the Mama Baboon's back

We made it to the zoo this past week. Johari really enjoyed hanging with the baboon statues on our way out. She really wanted to see the lion after we saw the mama and baby gorilla napping together.

Sonja came to visit!!!!


The look of a sour cherry!!!
Sonja and Johari jammin to music together
Drivin' a tractor
Getting ready for a dip in the pool
Taking a little water taxi to Granville Island


Our good friend, Sonja, came to visit us!!! We took her to Pike Place Market, a rock concert in the park, the university district, and on a ferry ride to a farmer's market. Then, we all headed up to Vancouver, B.C. together. We stayed with her there for a couple of days and drove home. While in Vancouver, we went to Stanley Park which is full of great things to do...spray park, totem poles, a petting farm, a rose garden, playgrounds and more. A wonderful place to spend the day or even several days. The next day we went to Granville Island which has a great market, a kid's shopping place, a playground and a spray park. A man who owned one boutique gave Johari a lovely heart necklace. Johari told me that we should go pay for it and I let her know that he had given it to her as a present so we didn't even have to pay for it. One evening we went swimming in the hotel pool. Johari enjoyed it but she got cold quickly so we tried out the whirlpool without the whirling! It was great! Warm and it had a ledge that was the perfect height for her to walk around in circles. Mama got relaxed in the warm water!
On our drive home, shortly before we were arriving at the border crossing without me mentioning it coming, Johari said that she needed her picture, referring to her passport. She is a regular traveler!! She has it all figured out already.
Ahdji-oudjou has been traveling along with us. She is very much a part of our daily lives. Ahdji-oudjou's mom drops her off and leaves to go to "classes". I thought to myself, how did she come up with classes. Then I realized that it came from me leaving her to go to some yoga classes. When Johari walks around with her arms folded across her chest, it usually means that she is carrying Ahdji-oudjou. Sometimes she even says her arm hurts from carrying Ahdji-oudjou for a long time.

Taking care of babies



Johari has a new baby

As I have mentioned before, Johari is opposed to band aids. I don't know what is behind the opposition but she does her own therapy about it. She is working it out. We have band aids to put on her baby. She happened to find herself a book at the bookstore a few weeks ago called The Boo Boo book. We read that often. She is figuring out the bumps and scrapes and casts of the world out. The night we got the book we had even seen a girl at the playground with a cast on her arm. So when we read about casts and broken bones, she often references the girl at the playground with the cast.


Strolling hand in hand...Ibrahim and Johari

We got to babysit Ibrahim for a couple hours the other day. So they hung out in the stroller together while I got my "walk on"!

"I love cows!"

A kid sandwich...Ibrahim, Johari and Ishmael




Baby cow at the petting farm

How do the parks just keep getting better and better? We keep finding more awesome parks. Our new favorite is Forest Park. Which has a petting farm with lots of baby animals...cows, goats, rabbits, pigs, ducks, turkeys, chickens, a goose, and a lamb. Very cool! It has a spray park that Johari actually gets into and runs around in the water. It a great playground and fields and forest and a swimming pool that we haven't checked out yet. A great find! It is a place that we could spend the whole day at as long as we bring enough food! These are pictures from our first visit there.
Randomly at some point, Johari said, "I love cows." She talking more about her love for things these days. She said that she loves grandma and grandpa.
She is also using the term of endearment, "honey" now. She hears it used often. So now she will say, "Hi, honey" when she comes in the house and grandpa is there.